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Can't stay online long... Must. Have. Sex.

Tue, Dec 16, 2008 at 04:29:34pm   ►by ann whidden   ►

On an online site dedicated to having sex, nothing deserves a second look like a survey that asks folks to choose between internet access and sex. Intel and Harris Interactive polled more than 2000 folks about their habits and priorities, and released the results December 15, 2008.

The data, as quoted by CNN, showed that, when having to choose between giving up sex or internet access for two weeks, that 46% of women chose the internet, versus 30% of men.

Random. Apples and oranges. Poor survey design, I say. I mean if you were choosing to be stranded on a desert island for two weeks with a computer and free wifi versus a hottie, maybe that would be a realistic question. And maybe people would have a different answer. Or maybe they wouldn't, but it would certainly be more meaningful if they preferred to chat online versus interact with a real human while on a desert island.

But who has to choose between sex and the internet--especially when you can combine the best of both worlds? What do polls like this--and polls that ask whether we have more sex than say, French people, or penguins, or how many people really do such and such--really show? That we have no idea, as a people, of what normal regular, healthy sexuality looks like--first. And second, that there is always some judgment involved, implying that we are simply not measuring up.

With those thoughts, I'm off. I'm afraid I have more--pressing--things to do.

Comments

the internet is for porn!

On a related note, has anyone ever noticed how anything to do with online sex is always framed in a negative way? I've noticed that at least for gay men the studies always refer to risky sexual behaviors (and by this they mean not using condoms, having sex while high, etc.) and increasing rates of disease due to online cruising. What if there are some men (and women) who are using the internet to negotiate their sexuality in a way that reduces negative risk-taking? For example, some people might go online, post photos and videos, or chat or cam and get off rather than cruising in a public park, going to a bathhouse, or picking someone up in a bar. Or maybe they use online sex sites to explore their sexuality or to have the thrill of "having sex" with someone other than their primary partner without actually having physical sex with someone outside of the relationship. There are many ways that I can imagine people engaging in healthy sexual behaviors that allow them to express themselves, experiment, and feel safe. Just as we now shop online (for sex toys at times - and shoes), download music and tv shows, get the news, stay in touch with our grandparents, the internet has become part of our sexuality and it ain't going nowhere. To quote a song from one of my favorite adult puppet musicals, "grab your dick and double click for porn. porn. porn." Avenue Q

Christopher White on Dec 17, 2008 10:00am