We'll start here...

Sitting and watching slides in Hector Carrillos' lecture on Sexual Tourism, while reflecting on the lecture on Sexual Migration from the previous day I thought 3 things to myself:

1. I wonder if anyone is doing research on LGBTQ youth of color leaving their neighborhoods to engage in sex/ "their community", and if so what that looks like. 

2. Sexual Migration IS research! It seems so common sense, how did I not realize that?

and

3. How have I been here so long and not had sex? 

When I knew that I was coming to San Francisco I established that I would begin to decide or more accurately begin fleshing out how I/my ideas could be a part of academia. I was going to ask questions about how my classmates got into grad school, how they chose their programs, what their fields of study have to do with sex/sexuality or gender, discuss my work experience in relation to academia and maybe point out a flaw or two because of it. Despite, all of these noble intentions both in my head (and yes, in my heart) I still knew that I wanted to be having sex. Listening to Carrillo speak about Sexual Tourism in such a way, gave it a sense of liberating normalcy that moved that want from the sides of my mind more to the forefront right behind homework and bonding with classmates, so I set out renewed of this additional intention. To get it. 

Transmarch: adorable queermo's everywhere, public drinking and smoking (wtf, San Francisco), friends, heck, there was even a person in a hot dog suit. I went out dancing, drinking, and cheered for Brooklyn performers like nobody's business. Alas, i walked home alone, drunk, and very aware that two of my partners were "enjoying" their pride back east. (Sidenote: I think I'm going to blog about poly in the future). 

Dyke March: the first thing that someone said to me was, "who's that cute boy in a skirt?". However, the folks i was with were too inebriated to go out and were asleep well before the pink party began. I hung out watching cartoon network. 

Pride: I started the day with Patron shots and suspenders, shiny gloves, and my condom tote bag (thanks NSRC). There's something about suspenders that gets attention. Sassying through the festival the first remark was, "i think if i were going to see anybody in a sling it would probably be him". Slightly appalled that they, whoever they were, could not see my demure toppiness, i pulled out the big guns and put my black kerchief in my left pocket (google: "the Hanky Code" if you have not). I danced, drank, and hula hooped my behind off but i ended up ushering my pile of kids home in a safe way. Later, we went out dancing and a random but attractive young woman kissed me saying, "i wanted to do that when i saw you the other day, if I wasn't dating someone i'd take you home". i assured her that i'm pretty easy and as her partner struts up she also dances on me. I think to myself, "this is fun". Fast forward 20 minutes and I'm back to walking drunk kids home while having a phone call with a friend who is in the back of a car about to have sex. I remind her to use a condom despite being on the pill. 

By Monday, I'm impressed by the fact that I have managed to go an entire pride weekend and not engage in any type of sexy fun. I think, "perhaps life thinks none for you this year, you had more than your fair share in the past". I think, "perhaps you didn't try hard enough".

So, awake early the morning after pride and having already read at least two of my readings, what do I do? I do as any bored boy who's been away from home for a while does, I begin trolling craigslist. My initial reaction sharing this feels like it should be shame but...eh. I know that my intention was at first just to see what others are looking for not necessarily to post or respond. But as I lay on the couch in my pajamas laughing at what people write, I start to scheme. Mostly because I realize that SF craigslist and NY craigslist movement are very different. The turnover rate and the requests are different. I begin to wonder (this is where my sex nerd kicks in):

1. How many ftm or transguy ads there are in SF in comparison to NY.

2. Also which type of ad tends to get the most responses in either city? (ads referencing: born genitalia, barebacking, nsa, operation status, hormone status, etc.)

3. Of the ads which have most follow through? (Tricks actually visiting) 

With this I began to hypothesize that those ads discussing either barebacking or "pussy" (as said in the ad) would get the most hits. I then wondered if there is any relation to sti transmission and these ads especially because they rely on partner disclosure, generally with an unknown source. 

I'm thinking of collecting data (aka posting) in both cities over the next two weeks to gauge this despite my lack of interest in either "front hole" play or barebacking. 

So, as I continue to hang out in one of the queerest cities in the US, I think to myself, "self, are you just not meant to get it or are you just not palatable to sf?" and "at least I brought my Hitachi".