As someone who struggles with meeting or attracting human beings in person, I often rely on online dating and hookups to meet and/or play with new folks. I was thinking about a recent online correspondence with an older woman who, after I revealed the bombshell that I identify as bisexual (while I identify as queer specifically, for the sake of convenience and depending on my expectations of what someone may know about “queer” as a sexual identity that I identify with, I’ll often refer to myself as bi and decide to elaborate later), she very respectfully told me that she was not really interested. To quote: “And the bisexual thing is also an issue for me. I understand you might play safe, but there are too many risks involved for me to be comfortable, and condoms break.” (The other kiss of death having been my status as an occasional smoker.)
Fast forward to yesterday, I had a great date with this really cool girl I just met via a post I put up on CL. I ended up spending the night at her place, and we had sex. I realized after the fact that I had not disclosed my sexual identity and preferences on my ad, and I got really worried. I have had a number of experiences where women will lose any interest in me that they may have had because of my status as...
