Hand jobs are funny.

I remember one lover asking me for a hand job and there was a hint of shame and excitement in his voice that'd I'd never heard from him before. While Men are rarely shy to ask for a blow job, there's something about asking for the "hand treatment" that inevitably feels forbidden and slightly juvenile. It's like "third base", just one step away from finally getting to "do it."

In some ways it's the least intimate and clumsy of the sex acts: lot's of flopping and fumbling, searching for that sweet spot: finding her clit than losing it, hitting that moan-worthy part of his head and having a carpal tunnel moment and losing the momentum and starting all over again-NO!!!!!! Must...achieve...happy...ending....

But while hand jobs do seem very middle school, it can also be a very grown up challenge. Foreign hand vs. native hand...Native hand knows the territory and has lot's of experience but foreign may have some tricks up it's sleeve: covert tactics such as sucking, kissing, biting.

Place your bets folks! It's a tough call. What do you think about hand jobs?

this blog was originally written by Anna Rose Steiner