"Is she or isn't she?"  I admit that the potential of our first lesbian, gay, or bisexual Supreme Court justice excited me when I first heard rumors about Solicitor General Elena Kagan's sexual identity when she first topped President Barack Obama's list for potential nominees to replace Justice John Paul Stevens.  I am angry that unsubstantiated rumors about her sexual orientation were released, and now the debate about "is she or isn't she?" rages more intensely than the debate about her qualifications.  But, I am disappointed and hurt that the response to "is she or isn't she?" has sounded like a defensive response whether she is a demon, leper, or serial killer.  The