"Is she or isn't she?"  I admit that the potential of our first lesbian, gay, or bisexual Supreme Court justice excited me when I first heard rumors about Solicitor General Elena Kagan's sexual identity when she first topped President Barack Obama's list for potential nominees to replace Justice John Paul Stevens.  I am angry that unsubstantiated rumors about her sexual orientation were released, and now the debate about "is she or isn't she?" rages more intensely than the debate about her qualifications.  But, I am disappointed and hurt that the response to "is she or isn't she?" has sounded like a defensive response whether she is a demon, leper, or serial killer.  The

Dear Mr. President,

 We all congratulate you on this amazing achievement; it is our victory, as much as yours, as you have often reminded us. Moving into the White House and getting the US house in order after years of bad leadership, corruption, failed opportunities, and pure dumb ignorance is going to be a challenge you will thrive on. Today, as you spoke to the country and took your oath of office, you highlighted the importance of science in decision making. What science shows in relation to sex is unequivocal, and it is time to usher in a new era of healthy sexuality that is grounded in science, truly comprehensive in scope and that speaks to all Americans—inclusive of, not regardless of, our differences in age, faith, race, culture, gender and physical ability.

Please remember sex education as you get into the work of making America “stronger.” To quote your own words, our policies on abstinence only –or “ignorance only,” as I have referred to them for years—must be changed; “there is a better way.” We have the solutions for progress and we can work together to improve life for all.

As a father, too, you will understand the need for truly comprehensive sexual literacy can make a huge difference in the lives of your daughters and all of society—now and for the rest of their lives. You will want them to grow up with healthy sexuality; that is what our...