I got the chance to sit in on an interview of Stephen
Elliott, author of My Girlfriend Comes to the City and
Beats Me Up. He shared so many things that struck me to the
core: beside his panty-wearing proclivities and penchant
for dacryphiles (people who get pleasure from watching
other people cry), he brought up the increasing need to get
our sexuality out of the confines of our private minds and
into dialogue .
He articulates it in the introduction of his book: "It is
in everyone's best interest for more people to be open
about their sexual desires.. We can't wait for the approval
of others.."
It reminded me of the increasingly powerful "moral crusade"
that right wing politicians are on: cutting away at
reproductive rights and limiting free sexual speech
(whether it be porn or erotica-bearing podcasts or adult
nursing relationship online groups). There's a community of
kinky people who are little known and whose rights are
diminished often without the knowledge of others who lead
more "normative" lives. But we're all kinky people - at
least a little!
It began to hit me recently that we human beings need
affirming touch and that for so many of us, the truth is
that sex may be the only time we have physical intimacy
with or access to touch from anyone. I thought about how
powerful that was. I thought about how much more powerful
and passionate our sex lives can...
